Fasten your seatbelts because I'm gonna' be the douchebag today. All buckled in? I've got my helmet, Kevlar vest, and athletic cup on. Ok, here we go...
I live in Rochester, NY, which is home to the suburb of Greece which spawned the viral video sensation of Karen Klein the bus monitor and the four foul mouthed moppets "bullying" her. I thought the children were disgusting. But it was obviously a game amongst them of "can you top this" with the most shocking and disgusting insult to Karen. It was inexcusable, deplorable and those kids should be kicked off the bus permanently and made to deal with their angry parents who will have to take time out of work to cart their asses around. As a parent I know that would be the most effective punishment for my kids. Hell hath no fury like a parent who has to take time off of work for something that could be avoided.
(Working parents, tell me if you haven't asked the school nurse when they call you at work, "Is the temperature really that bad?" "Well you stopped the bleeding already didn't you?" Because you all know time off work is money or co-workers or boss bitching about "Madge is always shirking her responsibilities because of her constant sick kids" BS. Damned if you do, damned if you don't. I digress.)
Here comes the douchebag part... How the hell does this warrant over $600,000 (last I checked) in reward to her for not doing her job?!!!!! Yes, yes those kids were awful but she's the adult! Isn't it a bus monitors job to keep order, not just ignore kids and sit in the seat and attempting to ignore them? It was reported that this wasn't the first time this happened and she had never reported any of the bad behavior, which according to my research is part of her job duties. Also, when I was a kid we couldn't even talk loud on the bus! If there was a group of us getting a little rowdy, the bus driver would stop the bus and split us up. Why the hell did this woman not tell them to stop talking and recording or she would report them? Why did she not send them to four different seats far apart and tell them to behave?
I'm not saying she asked for the money or is at fault for any of the money part, I'm saying it's kind of silly for people to donate to that cause. I'm sure she's very nice, but this whole thing got blown waaaaay out of proportion. As is everything that goes viral nowadays. Hell we make celebrities out of little kids on anesthesia! Give me a break.
I'm just saying, it takes two to Tango. I understand a kid being bullied, they don't have the maturity to defend themselves. But an adult? Ok, so she's "old". Last I checked 68 wasn't that old. I have sisters in their 60s that are still running 10K road races and I'm sure would kick my ass if I got out of line. And it's her God damn job to supposedly keep these kids in line or at the very least report them if they don't stay in line! Hike up your polyester pants Karen, and lay down the law!
And where was the bus driver?!!! I know he's busy driving the bus, but he could have pulled over the bus, I'm sure he heard the ruckus. Or she could have at least told him to pull over and told the little cretins that the bus wasn't moving again until they cut it out. They'd be pissed if she cut into their Xbox time!
I'm so tired of adults blaming the kids for the downfall of society. Be the damn adult! You have the control!
I've read everyday in the news here locally that they have had rallies and receptions like she's some kind of freakin' hero! I'm just kind of dumbfounded by the whole thing.
So if we follow that logic, could you all start a fund for me because I had my ex-husband verbally and physically abuse me? He was 6' tall and 220lbs of solid muscle, ex-hockey player (a defenseman goon to boot). At least I had an excuse, I couldn't undo his monster death grips on my arm. But I soon said enough and made him leave. I took responsibility. I understand some women get the crap beat out of them when they try to break it off, so it's easier to stay (in their mind). I was really lucky the physical stuff didn't get to that level. But I don't feel like anybody owes me squat.
I've had grown men in bars call me foul names because I rebuffed their advances. Like really nasty stuff that I can't repeat. If I didn't just leave, I'd tell the bouncer, that this guy was harrassing women and they'd escort him out. Nipped in the bud. Took control.
So yea, I'm a jerk. I just don't see where that unfortunate incident garners a trip to the community chest for this woman. It just goes to show you, America loves a good victim story. Why do you think there have been so many stories in the news lately of people getting busted for faking cancer to get a financial windfall or free wedding? Or why we hear of so many people getting scammed on the internet by those poor helpless millionaires in Nigeria that can't access their money? Because they know we are suckers. Which blows for the people that really are in need.
And I'll even take the douchebag one further... America loves a nice WHITE victim. Poor nice white lady gets harrassed... America to the rescue! Pretty suburban white girl goes missing... America to the rescue! Black or hispanic child goes missing... America is too busy to pay attention. Elderly non-white woman gets harrassed on the public bus everyday by young hoodlums... America could give a crap.
I know these are two separate issues, but seriously America, pay attention to the real injustices and let Karen Klein learn how to do her job figure out how to pay for her own damn vacation. Be the adult. Take control.
Let the hate mail begin...
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Thursday, June 28, 2012
Thursday, May 17, 2012
Idiot Parents and Psycho Kids, Does Not a Good Family Make
Be prepared for controversy today. I know some of you may have strong opinions on this one, but hear me out...
I was listening to a really crappy morning radio show the other day during the daily kid shuttle, only because every other station was on commercial break. I was also curious as to what was so great about this morning crew of which people raved. The answer was: nothing. But I can now give an educated opinion that they suck. I digress. They were talking about a guy who had been shot in the city in front of some kids, which lead to why were the kids out with no supervision anyway? (which I didn't see how that had anything to do with the murder, the guy was down the street and someone shot him) So the clueless hosts started to rant about the lack of good parenting in urban homes. Oy, why not just pull out some racial slurs while you're at it? So the insipid male host went into full on rant mode emphatically stating that all children would be best raised by 2 parents. That would be a Mom and a Dad.
*Ahem*
He ranted on and on that there would be less crime if there were two parents and more supervision in the home. Let me just point out one small detail that Insipid Host Guy missed - if said supervision is a moron, it won't necessarily produce better behaved offspring.
Let me present a few different scenarios. Now, this isn't a big ole pro-gay parenting rant, don't get your pre-conceived panties in a bunch, I'm just pro-good parenting... just let me present these facts....
* Lyle and Erik Menendez were raised by two wealthy suburban married hetero parents. (For those too young for the reference, these fine boys were convicted of murdering their parents in 1989)
* I have 3 children and they have a lot of friends and know who does what at school. Most of the kids that are perpetually in trouble at school come from two parent hetereo homes.
* My older daughter has a classmate who is a boy raised by two moms. He's 15, star athlete, A student, well mannered, very masculine and dates girls. I guess the gay agenda to raise a new generation of all gay, all the time failed there, huh?
* I know some single hetero moms that are raising kids that haved dropped out of high school and are doing nothing but smoking pot and playing video games. (the kid, not the mom)
* I know two parent hetero homes that have perfectly nice, smart children, but wouldn't know how to withstand a crisis or make a decision if their life depended on it.
* George Washington, first president, Founding Father, highly revered symbol of this country... was raised by a single mother. (his Father died when he was 11)
* Oprah Winfrey, the most successful and wealthiest female media mogul ever, was raised by several different people. First by her single teen Mother, then her Mother and Grandmother, then just her Grandmother, then by the man she thought was her biological Father, then she ran away from home for a while, then moved back with Mom.
* I know a local kid who was raised by two Moms (one Mom was biological via sperm donor), but by junior high the Moms seperated. Both Moms are attorneys. So then that made him a child of gay divorced parents, living between two homes. He was a nice smart kid when he was little, now he's a slacker pothead hanging around with the kind of dirtbag crowd, who I'm not sure is even going to college.
* A friend had a child with her first husband, he ran off and later she remarried. The child has been raised by Step-Dad as if it was his own. The child is well mannered, successful college graduate living in NYC.
* Shania Twain, a perfectly nice successful country singer was physically abused by her Step-Father.
* President Bill Clinton was first raised by two parents, then Father died so it became a single parent home, then mother remarried and he was beaten up often by his Step-Father. Although his treatment of females is questionable, he did become POTUS.
*Charles Manson was born to an unwed 16 year old runaway sometimes prostitute who kept trying to pawn him off to orphanages, relatives or other random people, having once traded him to a childless waitress for a pitcher of beer. And we all know what happened to him...
* Eric Harris and Dylan Klebold who committed the Columbine High School Massacre in 1999 were both raised in suburban hetero two parent homes.
* And finally... me. I have 3 children, got divorced when they were all under 7. Later Dad disappeared completely, and left us destitute. I didn't have any romantic relationships the first 9 years of being divorced. I work full time but still qualify for food and medical aid. My oldest is graduating from a top all boys prep school and going to NYU next year. My girls are both A students, good athletes, well mannered and go to a good all girls school.
My point? Not sure, I started off thinking good parenting was the key, but some of my scenarios have proven otherwise. There is no perfect formula for raising non-troubled children. I'm not married but I'd say my kids are pretty good so far, but should I run out and get married just because Bristol Palin said my kids should have a Mom and Dad? Which we all know is idiotic because she was an unwed teen mom who pushed her baby-daddy out of the picture. WTF?
And that whole sanctity of marriage thing? With people choosing purposely to have babies out of wedlock, the divorce rate for first marriages is (approx.) 50%, second marriages 67%, and third marriages 75%, I'd say that sanctity was shot to hell along time ago.
At first I thought the only thing to ensure decent kids is to not be an idiot, but I've seen offspring of idiots turn out well. And I've seen children of nice people become deeply troubled. However, I still don't recommend being an idiot parent like, oh say, the "Tan Mom" Patricia Krentcil. But who knows her kids could turn out to be rocket scientists. Not likely, but ya' never know.
Well hell, now I'm more confused than when I started this blog. Is parenting just luck or chance? Nah. Um... maybe? However I'd say it's safer to be a good parent than not. All I know is that there is no magic formula like some would have you believe of having a two parent hetero home. I am certain that the family dynamic does not pre-determine the success of the child. Neither terrible parenting nor problematic children are exclusive of any one race, socio-economic group, sexual orientation, or living situation. So... good luck with that.
Let me know what you think, is there a formula for parenting?
I was listening to a really crappy morning radio show the other day during the daily kid shuttle, only because every other station was on commercial break. I was also curious as to what was so great about this morning crew of which people raved. The answer was: nothing. But I can now give an educated opinion that they suck. I digress. They were talking about a guy who had been shot in the city in front of some kids, which lead to why were the kids out with no supervision anyway? (which I didn't see how that had anything to do with the murder, the guy was down the street and someone shot him) So the clueless hosts started to rant about the lack of good parenting in urban homes. Oy, why not just pull out some racial slurs while you're at it? So the insipid male host went into full on rant mode emphatically stating that all children would be best raised by 2 parents. That would be a Mom and a Dad.
*Ahem*
He ranted on and on that there would be less crime if there were two parents and more supervision in the home. Let me just point out one small detail that Insipid Host Guy missed - if said supervision is a moron, it won't necessarily produce better behaved offspring.
Let me present a few different scenarios. Now, this isn't a big ole pro-gay parenting rant, don't get your pre-conceived panties in a bunch, I'm just pro-good parenting... just let me present these facts....
* Lyle and Erik Menendez were raised by two wealthy suburban married hetero parents. (For those too young for the reference, these fine boys were convicted of murdering their parents in 1989)
* I have 3 children and they have a lot of friends and know who does what at school. Most of the kids that are perpetually in trouble at school come from two parent hetereo homes.
* My older daughter has a classmate who is a boy raised by two moms. He's 15, star athlete, A student, well mannered, very masculine and dates girls. I guess the gay agenda to raise a new generation of all gay, all the time failed there, huh?
* I know some single hetero moms that are raising kids that haved dropped out of high school and are doing nothing but smoking pot and playing video games. (the kid, not the mom)
* I know two parent hetero homes that have perfectly nice, smart children, but wouldn't know how to withstand a crisis or make a decision if their life depended on it.
* George Washington, first president, Founding Father, highly revered symbol of this country... was raised by a single mother. (his Father died when he was 11)
* Oprah Winfrey, the most successful and wealthiest female media mogul ever, was raised by several different people. First by her single teen Mother, then her Mother and Grandmother, then just her Grandmother, then by the man she thought was her biological Father, then she ran away from home for a while, then moved back with Mom.
* I know a local kid who was raised by two Moms (one Mom was biological via sperm donor), but by junior high the Moms seperated. Both Moms are attorneys. So then that made him a child of gay divorced parents, living between two homes. He was a nice smart kid when he was little, now he's a slacker pothead hanging around with the kind of dirtbag crowd, who I'm not sure is even going to college.
* A friend had a child with her first husband, he ran off and later she remarried. The child has been raised by Step-Dad as if it was his own. The child is well mannered, successful college graduate living in NYC.
* Shania Twain, a perfectly nice successful country singer was physically abused by her Step-Father.
* President Bill Clinton was first raised by two parents, then Father died so it became a single parent home, then mother remarried and he was beaten up often by his Step-Father. Although his treatment of females is questionable, he did become POTUS.
*Charles Manson was born to an unwed 16 year old runaway sometimes prostitute who kept trying to pawn him off to orphanages, relatives or other random people, having once traded him to a childless waitress for a pitcher of beer. And we all know what happened to him...
* Eric Harris and Dylan Klebold who committed the Columbine High School Massacre in 1999 were both raised in suburban hetero two parent homes.
* And finally... me. I have 3 children, got divorced when they were all under 7. Later Dad disappeared completely, and left us destitute. I didn't have any romantic relationships the first 9 years of being divorced. I work full time but still qualify for food and medical aid. My oldest is graduating from a top all boys prep school and going to NYU next year. My girls are both A students, good athletes, well mannered and go to a good all girls school.
My point? Not sure, I started off thinking good parenting was the key, but some of my scenarios have proven otherwise. There is no perfect formula for raising non-troubled children. I'm not married but I'd say my kids are pretty good so far, but should I run out and get married just because Bristol Palin said my kids should have a Mom and Dad? Which we all know is idiotic because she was an unwed teen mom who pushed her baby-daddy out of the picture. WTF?
And that whole sanctity of marriage thing? With people choosing purposely to have babies out of wedlock, the divorce rate for first marriages is (approx.) 50%, second marriages 67%, and third marriages 75%, I'd say that sanctity was shot to hell along time ago.
At first I thought the only thing to ensure decent kids is to not be an idiot, but I've seen offspring of idiots turn out well. And I've seen children of nice people become deeply troubled. However, I still don't recommend being an idiot parent like, oh say, the "Tan Mom" Patricia Krentcil. But who knows her kids could turn out to be rocket scientists. Not likely, but ya' never know.
Well hell, now I'm more confused than when I started this blog. Is parenting just luck or chance? Nah. Um... maybe? However I'd say it's safer to be a good parent than not. All I know is that there is no magic formula like some would have you believe of having a two parent hetero home. I am certain that the family dynamic does not pre-determine the success of the child. Neither terrible parenting nor problematic children are exclusive of any one race, socio-economic group, sexual orientation, or living situation. So... good luck with that.
Let me know what you think, is there a formula for parenting?
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